I’m your average housewife and mother, however that’s not who I really am. Parts of me have seemed to disappear since I took on this new role. I’m afraid if I don’t rediscover those parts my soul will die and my journey in this life will be for nought. . .Have you ever felt that way?
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I think it is an easy trap to fall into - feeling what others think about you and caring what they think. When you have a family you have to do that to some extent but how to keep time and space for yourself?
I think it is very difficult to separate what actions should be taken, or what mindset to have when your family is your first priority from what is best for yourself as an individual. It is a challenge to face and sometimes one as a mother makes a decision that the children might not have the maturity to understand, or might not be too informed of the situation to understad why you are reacting a certain way or making certain decision. How you handle tha I feel is an individual thing, an individul mindset because every situation and every family is diferent. I do believe there is a way for all results to be positive, but on the same token we must be realistic that all situations vary and differ.
I agree with the previous comment. My mom has places all of her energy into others - making sure that all of the kids are happy, healthy, and taken care of. By the end of the day, she has no energy left for herself. This cycle has been playing out for as long as I can recall. A few years ago, she fell into an entirely new one when she became a grandmother.
You're a role model for your kids, not just their provider. It's true that they look to you to support them and help them whenever they need you, but its also important for them to see you as a fellow human being that they can relate to. If you're constantly depressed and your life is going nowhere purely because you have "hit that stage in your life where your family is your priority", you kids see that and associate that with just growing up. I think you could serve them better by showing them that their later years in life won't become some boring routine or some soul-crushing responsibility. Give them hope for a happy future by making sure you're living happily now.
Great insight. I really hope that my daughter, Judy, can learn to live life by following her dreams. She has such a vibrant spirit. I'm worried about my unrest will affect her.
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